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Got this link via mindways. Since there's been a lot of "social dynamics" stuff being discussed amongst my Live Journal friends recently, I thought this might be relevant:

Discuss! ;-)

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The article in question is 2,254 words, 328 of them deal with the subject "Ostracisers are Evil."

I eagerly await Gordon's response.

(Note that I don't necessarily agree with everything written there. The problem with ostricizing "antisocial" people is "where do we draw the line?" I'd rather tell someone that their behavior/hygene/whatever is bothering other people than keep them away. Sure, it might bother those infected with #2 (Friends accept me as I am), but since I believe the opposite (real friends help us become better people), I'm not too concerned.)

For the love of god and all that is holy!

Anyway... I've read that particular bit. I feel that it represents an extreme.

I think "antisocial" people eventually ostracize themselves. It may take a while, but it's better than promoting an ethic of excluding people with prejudice all the time. Ask demongrrrrl about her theatre experiences, as an example, of Why This Is A Bad Idea.

I tend to agree with you that it's better to tell someone, gently, what they are doing that makes others unhappy. However, this sometimes doesn't work. At all (in one ear, out the other, in a best-case scenario; being vilified as a terrible cruel person in a worst-case scenario). Which is why I sometimes pull my hair out. ::sigh::

D'ya suppose people will think I'm cute when I'm bald? I don't...

Hope you don't mind, took this to an email list as a discussion of the nature of friendship. I certainly saw truths in some of it and I am certainly guilty of some of it.

Well, I think that the recent discussion on this shows how some of the players on the last discussion of it have come full circle. :)

"It may stop, but it never ends..."

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